Monday, December 7, 2009

Day #7: Family Dynamics and Your Wedding

From June Hoffman and Erik Michaels of Megasound

One of the biggest things to remember (about planning your wedding) is that you will NOT please everyone with every decision that you make for your wedding. With that being said, we would like to offer Fort Wayne brides and grooms seven ways to incorporate your family in your wedding (without driving yourself crazy).

1. Ask a parent or sibling to walk you down the aisle. If you have older children, ask them to be your escort. This is an honor that they will remember for a lifetime.

2. Ask brothers from both sides (brides and grooms) to act as ushers. The general rule of thumb is one usher for every fifty guests. It will speed up the seating process (as well as releasing guests after the ceremony) to have more escorts.

3. Teenage nieces and nephews are good choices for guest book attendants and greeters (to distribute programs) at the ceremony. They would also be able to hand out bubbles and/or flower petals (if allowed by ceremony location) directly after the ceremony.

4. Only ask family members who are comfortable with public speaking to share a special reading or Bible verse during the ceremony.

5. Older nieces, nephews, or children could assist guests with locating place cards at the reception.

6. Ask a grandparent, aunt, or uncle to lead the prayer before the meal. Be sure to let your DJ/MC know this person’s name ahead of time so they can be introduced before dinner.

7. Before the reception, ask family members who love dancing to be party-motivators or dance instructors. Of course, request that they do this tastefully as you want excitement and celebration, not chaos and embarrassment.

When asking family members for help with your wedding, be sure to take into consideration age, proximity, maturity, and willingness.

Happy Planning!

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